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I need help! I am an Aunt of a very beautiful 4 year old boy, who came into our lives through an adoption. My nephew came into this world with chaos and turmoil thrown at him and this followed him until age two. Finally everything hit the fan and he was placed with relatives, where he stayed close to a year in a loving environment. The caregivers were older and knew that he needed to be adopted; but at the same time, did not want to let him go. The state would rather place him with someone that was close to him, so in the end the decision was made for him to live with my sister. The adoption papers were signed and now it all was finally over.
My nephew has a very hard time with females in general. He would rather go with or talk with a male anytime. The first year was very hard on my sister because he was very defiant towards her. He would snub her off and never wanted for her to hold him or tell him she loved him. He would always say, "No You Don't!"; he also would hit her violently. She was always positive and never gave up. Now they have a good relationship and he is getting ready to turn five this fall. She still has to deal with his five year old comments, but who doesn't when they have kids.
Now for my question. I am watching him this summer everyday from 8-5. I always take him places
and try to entertain him every second of the day. But my problem is that it
is never enough. He tells me that doesn't like me and tells me that he won't
do the things I ask from him. I know that he is only a child and I let
almost everything slide because he is only a kid; but after months of the
talking mean to me, I need a way to stop it and make him see that he has to
respect me. In someways I believe that he thinks that
I am on his level and it doesn't matter; but after a while I feel that he needs some consequence for his behavior. I need your help to see what I can do and what kind of discipline he needs because
I truly care for this child and want him to grow into a beautiful person.
Please Help!
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