Friendships
Seven-year-old playmates tend to have frequent fights and arguments. Hard feelings are rarely permanent, so parents shouldn't stress too much. It's best to separate them when they fight. Let everyone withdraw to themselves and come back together tomorrow.
Part of the problem with seven-year-old friendships is the shift from role-taking to rule-based play. They are sorting out a pecking order and conflicts are a natural result. Though this is a natural human phenomenon, it can get ugly; so seven's play should be supervised to prevent bullying and physical or emotional harm.
Because sevens can't play together without fighting, a good strategy is to involve them in adult-led, organized play activities, such as sports, Scouts, or a community center such as Boys & Girls Club or YWCA/YMCA. Another strategy is to let them play in pairs. Two sevens always play better than three.
Friendships will progress in the next few years; but for now, seven is a transition time in peer relationships. This year, a balance between organized and solitary play will help them through this transition.
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