Do you find yourself losing your cool with your kids more than you would like? If yelling has become all too common in your home, you may want to consider changing your discipline dynamic. A recent study from researchers at the University of Pittsburgh has found that yelling as well as hurling insults and curses at kids may be as damaging as hitting them.
Before I had a child, I had envisioned myself disciplining my child quietly and calmly when he misbehaved, maybe even with a catchy tune, just like Julie Andrews in The Sound of Music. The reality -- thankfully only once in a while -- was much different, and I found myself being more of a shrieking banshee than a master of Zen discipline.
Once the terrible twos (which actually lasted till about age three in our house) were over, though, I found that yelling was a maybe-twice-a-year occurrence. Sure, there were plenty of times I had to talk to my son to correct his behavior. But flat-out yelling and blowouts? They were and are rare.
I think I'm very lucky that I have a kid who is generally more apt to be hard on himself when he makes a mistake, and wants to be the best that he can be (which means doing his homework and chores). Yes, I know that his personality plays a huge role but I think that my having established early on in his life the importance of talking things through (talking, and rarely ever yelling) set an important foundation.
Do you find yourself losing your cool more than you would like? Try some strategies for how to discipline without yelling and read about why it's important to have a peaceful house in which to discipline your child.